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Post by Michaela on Nov 4, 2013 15:30:17 GMT
What's the number one thing you would say helped/helps you in your recovery? For me it has to be talking to and connecting with others - talking to friends, family, therapists etc has helped me to realise that my thoughts and feelings aren't as scary as I think they are, it's okay to be upset, it's okay to find things hard, we don't have to be perfect all of the time. I don't have to feel guilty for every little thing I do or don't do, the things that scare me aren't quite as scary when they are shared. Connecting with others who understand too - here on MiLO, on various other sites I have used in the past, through YouTube - I've realised that I'm not the only one who feels this way, not the only one who struggles, there are people just like me and we can help each other Love you guys!
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Post by mia on Nov 5, 2013 12:38:22 GMT
I know I'm gonna sound cliched - but honestly: MiLO. Something in me's really changed since I got involved with it. Just after christmas last year I suffered the worst episode I've ever had, and was in a really really dark place. I did some things I'm actually pretty ashamed of whilst I was hypo-manic. Since I've been involved with MiLO it's the first time I've really felt like i COULD get better, I've always wanted to, but I've never believed that I could before. I was convinced my life would be a cycle of highs and lows forever and I would never be able to achieve anything I wanted to. Now I'm in a community of people who understand, who don't freak out when I tell them what I'm experiencing, or get upset and angry at me when I don't instantly get better, it's just totally changed my whole perspective on life. I've kind of learnt now that this is just a part of me, and it probably won't ever go away, but that I can be in control of it, instead of it controlling me. A whole community of people who accept who I am with my disorder has given me the confidence to be more open with other people about it - and if they're not going to accept it as part of me, then they can jog on, they don't know what their missing, cuz actually, I do pretty amazing things!
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Post by lucyrob on Nov 5, 2013 17:58:12 GMT
Definitely my family...Especially my parents and brother. Could not have done anything without them. They were my absolute rock and I can never thank them enough for putting up with me and getting me through.
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Post by Kimberley on Nov 9, 2013 19:54:38 GMT
Without a doubt, my husband (that still feels weird saying, haha!) but I've never honestly met someone who is so patient, kind, and caring. I know I'm biased but he really is an incredible human being. He doesn't have any mental health disorders himself, which I suppose is why I'm in even more awe of how he is with me. It doesn't matter how many times I have to do something or how long it takes, he's not even phased. Without him I don't think I'd be here today.
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Post by Bex on Dec 9, 2013 12:49:30 GMT
I'm going to sound like a sop here too, but it's definitely Minds Like Ours and you guys. It gives me a reason to get up in the morning, it gives me something to occupy my time with, it gives me the motivation to do something every day, you guys give me the inspiration to carry on fighting and take each little step towards recovery. I really don't know where I would be or what I would be doing if it wasn't for everyone at MiLO. Sopsopsop!
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Post by Nick with OCD on Dec 9, 2013 13:39:42 GMT
I'm going to say that, although I am never going to be fully recovered from these illnesses, the support I get from twitter, my OCD facebook group and also MiLO is the biggest part or the process. The more I use these groups/forums and help others, the more I can actually help myself (if you get my meaning?) As I said on hangout last week, MiLO has played a big part in my life for the last 3 weeks and has actually helped me come out of my shell a little bit. I'm more social online now thanks to you guys at MiLO
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Post by Deleted on Dec 9, 2013 13:47:30 GMT
MLO and my son And that's good to hear Nick
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Post by Nick with OCD on Dec 9, 2013 13:53:44 GMT
Just being honest. I'd like to think I've made some new friends through MiLO and the hangouts
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Post by Deleted on Dec 9, 2013 13:55:57 GMT
I think you have. It's great to see a new member make such a contribution
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Post by Nick with OCD on Dec 9, 2013 13:58:27 GMT
I like to help, even when I struggle myself I'm still there for people as one person actually found out a few nights ago (they shall remain nameless unless they come forward)
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Post by mia on Dec 10, 2013 18:05:56 GMT
Yeh I have to say helping other people is one of the healthiest things anyone can do. It's sensational the effect it has on your own mood, and it gives me the perfect practice is taking my own advice as well!!
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Post by Deleted on Dec 11, 2013 22:37:18 GMT
Not relapsing. Many of you have put people as the thing that is important. For me its my self and knowing my triggers and having the courage to fight them
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Post by curlyjoy on Dec 13, 2013 12:01:56 GMT
Different things have helped for different reasons - CBT and talking to other professionals helped me make sense of my head a bit more, and gave me a much needed guilt-free person to spew all my head-mess on, without me feeling like I was burdening people (they were being paid to listen after all!!). Unfortunately these didn't particularly help the physical/behavioural stuff, and the first time I had a good long period of recovery it was largely down to setting myself goals and challenging myself to meet them, because it gave me something new and positive to focus on and aim for. That, and God, very much so. At the moment, after having relapsed, the thing that is just incredibly helpful is one friend that I live with. I'm rubbish at asking for help, and we all know the unhelpful voices that always try and persuade you out of asking, but this person now knows that if I say "I feel full" or "I feel yucky" then it means a bit more than that, and then she will sit with me or go for a walk with me or just distract me or let me cry with her, for however long it takes for the anxiety/anger/horribleness to go away and to stop me doing anything stupid. She's amazing, I'm so lucky, I wish everyone had someone like her around! Hope that's helpful
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Post by BethH on Dec 15, 2013 9:32:52 GMT
I think the most important thing in recovery is making the decision to recover in the first place. It's very easy to let a disorder control your life when it's been there for so long and you may not even know how to live without it, but you can take a stand against it and, at the end of the day, other people can help you do that, but you're the only one who can actually do it.
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