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Post by Deleted on Oct 9, 2013 10:57:49 GMT
I was on my way to the rethink committee briefing today and whilst I was on the tube I had to take my jumper off because I was really hot.
The woman opposite me spent about 10 minutes staring at my scars, then when she caught my attention she asked if I was ok. Obviously I said yes, and she was all like 'are you sure?'
I said yes and carried on with my daily business but I didnt really know how to react. I would have loved to have talked to her about it but I was on a train full if people during rush hour and didnt feel comfortable.
It was nice to have someone show concern though instead of just staring and making me feel uncomfortable.
Have you have any experiences like this?
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Post by ldavis2100 on Oct 9, 2013 22:50:58 GMT
Hey Kim, (sorry for a long reply!)
So great to hopefully see that stigma attached to SH is slowly decreasing and not everyone reacts the same.
I guess the closest thing I can relate to this is when I had to have my bridesmaid dress fitted.
Luckily my Mum and not a stranger was making the dresses but I hadn't shared anything about my problems with my mental health to her for about 2 years, let alone the horror if she found out about the SH.
I was racking my brain thinking... "Should I tell her before I get fitted for the dress and warn her?" or "Should i just hope she doesn't see or just go with the flow?"
I got right to the actual fitting point where I had to take my t-shirt off, and the words fell out my mouth. "Just to warn you, please don't be shocked when you see this".
When I was much younger I had such an awful reaction, and I was so terrified the same would happen.
Her reaction was pure love, compassion and understanding and she just wondered if there was anything she could do and that I could always talk to her about it and she would like to learn more about it.
I couldn't believe it.. What a relief. I know it's different with a family member but the close connection can be even harder sometimes...
"I'm older and wiser now" she said to me as I sighed with relief!
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Post by Deleted on Oct 17, 2013 23:09:50 GMT
Thanks. Im glad things worked out ok for you.
On a completely unrelated note (sorry) I am totally not ok.
Im sick of all of this. I am always trying to raise awareness of mental health and I try to create videos (speaking and non verbal) to stamp out stigma, and do charity events and fundraising etc but cos im just a little person, I get ignored.
I ask for help with videos and no one shows any interest yet when someone else needs the help everyone goes running.
I offer my help to people who need it and the same thing happens.
Im seriously sick of this.
Why am I so different? Why am I so unimportant and insignificant?
Ive had enough!
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Post by BethH on Oct 22, 2013 6:26:11 GMT
You're not insignificant, Kim, I promise. I'm still interested in getting involved with your stigma video if you're still interested in making it, and I can try and help you find more people to join in.  |
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Post by Katrine on Oct 23, 2013 21:01:20 GMT
Hi Kim. Very interesting encounter you had on the tube... It makes me think there's hope for this World yet  It's always nice to experience that instead of someone just staring, as you said. And believe me, Kim, you are NOT insignificant. I'm sorry to hear that you feel this way, though I know the feeling.... If people don't want help, it's their problem. I think you must be a very nice person to want to offer them help, I'm sorry if they don't want to accept it. |
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