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Post by Bex on Aug 28, 2013 10:20:55 GMT
Hi everyone,
There is something which has been bought to my attention recently and I thought I should chat to you all about members, judgements and what to do if you feel unsure or uncomfortable.
Firstly, everyone on this forum has a mental health disorder, or we have a few who live with those that have a mental health disorder. When going through the forum it is important to remember this, as it is what keeps us all connected.
From this point it's good to remember that some things that are said and done are BECAUSE of their disorder. As an example, someone with HPD may make slightly lewd comments but that is due to their illness, not because they deliberately want to make you feel uncomfortable. On the other hand, someone could make a lewd comment that's inexplicable and makes you feel uncomfortable for the sake of it. This is just the same as someone posting triggering things, posts about being overly upset or angry rant posts. In 99% of cases those posts are people channeling their disorders and getting them off their chest, which is what we're here for.
As human beings it is our instant reaction to judge and make assumptions on a person by a picture, what they say or what they do. However, as mental health battlers and survivors we are constantly being judged ourselves and it doesn't make us feel any good, does it? Knowing this it is important to keep the forum a judgement free place.
If you do feel upset or uncomfortable about a certain post or person then report it. The rules are there for a reason and we can let that person know that their behaviour is causing upset. On the other hand, you can try getting to know the person and their disorder, so that you can understand better and feel less judgemental.
I hope this all makes sense! We are not the judges, we are the judged, so let us be judgement free!
Thanks
Bex x
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Post by Kimberley on Aug 28, 2013 10:26:38 GMT
Hey Bex, very fair and honest post. xx
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Post by Bex on Aug 28, 2013 10:32:27 GMT
I want to make clear that this doesn't mean that people can do and say what they want, then blame it on their disorder. We will still expect people to abide by the rules and will handle forum punishment accordingly, but it is asking people to look at the bigger picture.
I don't want any bullying, cliques or anything of that sort, which stems from judging others.
Thanks again!!
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Post by Paul on Aug 28, 2013 15:42:20 GMT
I'll have to analyse everything reactionary that I post, my sense of humour can be a bit dry sometimes but I don't believe I've offended anyone. Maybe I should go back through all my posts and check everything I've typed just in case. Worried now..
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Post by Deleted on Aug 28, 2013 15:50:29 GMT
Please do not worry Paul. Although I do not know who are involved I would like to assure you that you have nothing to worry about.
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Post by Bex on Aug 28, 2013 18:30:48 GMT
Hi Paul,
Do not worry. I don't want people worrying about what they post and that was the point of this. We will always let you know if we think something is wrong or out of hand.
Thanks
Bex
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Post by Rebecca92 on Aug 28, 2013 19:40:42 GMT
Well said Bex
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Post by Paul on Aug 28, 2013 20:37:30 GMT
Nice to see u back Rebecca.
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Post by Katrine on Sept 1, 2013 22:59:08 GMT
Well written, Bex. And so true. Paul, I think they'll give you a notice if they see something that shouldn't be there, they did that with me and I just edited my post and everything was fine
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