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Post by thewhisperrkid on Aug 1, 2013 21:55:56 GMT
Why hello there! Id love to know who gave the worst response when trying to explain your mental health problem to them/ who you felt didn't understand/ held stigma! This will enable us to see area's to target  |
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Post by Katey on Aug 2, 2013 10:34:18 GMT
My worst responses came from some of my close friends, and my employer/s.
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Post by loxanichs on Aug 2, 2013 10:52:53 GMT
One of my best friends. We bonded over the fact we endured similar hardships (only both of us were foster kids)
When I told her about my DID she took it in the extreme way, the end result was Alex's rant and my inspiration for a new vlog. Obviously I'm not mentioning names for legit reasons, but I think my other friends and family need to see how damaging seemingly honest comments can be. (I need to get back to cleaning lol!)
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Post by Casey on Aug 2, 2013 14:01:49 GMT
My parents, or specifically my mother, she's ignorant and refuses to believe I have a problem as she doesn't want to deal with it. Since I told her about my OCD she's been making comments like "well you can clear up a little more then cant you so the place is tidy for you"...that drives me mad...
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Post by Bex on Aug 2, 2013 14:43:39 GMT
My friends! They pretend they're okay with it, but then when I go quiet/reclused they completely ignore me for months on end. None of them have ever experienced anything like this, so I understand why it's difficult to comprehend, but sometimes I wish they'd be a bit more open about it.
None of them even watched Diaries of a Broken Mind, even though I said it would explain things a lot better for them. They've been my closest friends for 12 years but now I feel a bit cast aside.
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Post by Kimberley on Aug 2, 2013 15:58:49 GMT
I've put healthcare professionals for a variety of reasons really. I first ticked parents/carers but to be honest, my family have been SO incredible recently. They weren't when I first got my diagnosis years back, but then I think some of that was because of how it was explained by professionals if that makes sense. It was difficult for my mum to be kept in the loop and looking back now, I can see why she was frustrated - she didn't understand. I would be exactly the same. And then of course my experience with CAMHS wasn't a good one and made my health worse.
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Post by xxxxxxx on Aug 2, 2013 17:13:24 GMT
I chose parents and extended family. I never met my dad until I was 16, and when I did, he sexually abused me. For years after, my family and my mum's response to it was for me to just 'get over it'. Don't get me wrong, my family love me - I know they do. But they come from both a time and an area where that's the appropriate response to things like that. Keep calm and carry on. There was also a similar response to my mental health in general. My grandma was utterly shocked when she found out I was taking Prozac when I was 16. She asked why anyone my age would ever be depressed. I adore my mum and my family, but I never talk about my mental health with them. I'm lucky enough, however, that I've had a great response from the mental health services in Norfolk, and my friends and boyfriend are incredibly supportive. |
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Post by thewhisperrkid on Aug 2, 2013 19:13:19 GMT
Wow Great to hear from you all!! Personally, I found it difficult with my parents and sister and im in the same situation in that I love them but they just dont understand! ..Casey.. I get unhelpful comments too! But I guess when someone doesnt understand they deal with things in the wrong manner. When I was at college.. I kept my problems to myself in fear of what my friends would say. In school you dont learn much about mental health therefore there is a lot of misunderstanding! I was lucky too tho.. In that I have very supportive health care professionals. However, I too had a negative experience of Camhs. I got spoke down too, patronized and treated like they didnt want to speak to me. Id love to find ways to help improve the service for other young people. Thanks again everyone!  |
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Post by xxxxxxx on Aug 2, 2013 20:11:20 GMT
It's definitely interesting seeing it in poll form, it was a great idea. I was quite surprised by the results, I was expecting family to be 1st!
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Post by Luke on Aug 2, 2013 21:10:38 GMT
Something completely different for me, academics. It seems the structure for higher education isn't really equipped to deal with mental health issues even though they're ostensibly the best prepared. Every time I've told someone I've been given really indifferent responses along with a real lack of support.
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Post by saintkate on Aug 3, 2013 1:54:41 GMT
Well I'll be the typical response giver and say family in regards specifically to my mother. She sees my illness as fake or overly dramatic and refuses to accept that our home was traumatic which would lead to my disorder. Its worse because ive been able to keep functioning she always likes to point out how I seem to only go to pieces when its convient like to get out of family obligations. Everyone else has been pretty supportive but ignorant so I tend not to open up to many about it.
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Post by Michaela on Aug 6, 2013 22:12:47 GMT
I don't know if I'm just lucky, but my family and friends have been great. I guess my family are used to coping with my mam's depression and we've always been brought up to be accepting of that kind of thing. I've only told four of my closest friends, but to be fair I don't think my other friends would react badly and I'm not against telling them, it just hasn't exactly come up. I kept everything to myself until I was hospitalised just over a year ago and I don't really know why - I didn't think people would reject me, I maybe just thought they'd think I was over-exaggerating?
Acquaintances would be the people I'd be least comfortable telling I think, because it has more opportunity to colour their perception when they don't know you as well.
Anyway I put health professionals - they are the only people who I've ever had a problem with, though not all of them of course. Some of them have been lovely, but some just shouldn't be in the field and either don't take you seriously enough or don't deal with you sensitively enough.
Great question! I'm surprised highest is friends actually, I wouldn't have expected that.
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Post by Paul on Aug 12, 2013 19:48:05 GMT
My parents, or specifically my mother, she's ignorant and refuses to believe I have a problem as she doesn't want to deal with it. Since I told her about my OCD she's been making comments like "well you can clear up a little more then cant you so the place is tidy for you"...that drives me mad... OMG that is awful Casey not only is that unsupportive but its pretty ignorant of your condition in general. I really get fed up with people that saying they feel depressed (because they've had a bad day) and they've got OCD (because they like things to be tidy or chairs to be straight, If only they knew). |
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Post by Paul on Aug 12, 2013 20:01:21 GMT
My mum, sister and brother all have depression at different levels so they now have an understanding of my condition, even though it wasn't always the case with my mum, because she is a sufferer herself she seemed to take ownership of depression and 'I didn't have it and I didn't have a clue what its like'. My childhood was tough because of my mum's condition, she would take her illness out on me and also phone my dad at work almost on a daily basis winding him up so he would have a go at me once he got home. I did have a large group of friends but not ones you would be able to talk to about it only a couple of my closest friends knew and they were supportive. My employer was supportive which was good as I had quite a major melt down at work and was off work for 6 months.
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Post by BethH on Aug 15, 2013 15:48:48 GMT
I told two of my friends about my OCD on separate occasions and they both thought I was joking. :/
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