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Post by klairebear on Sept 30, 2013 11:11:39 GMT
i have recently (about a month ago) moved to a new house at first the neighbours seamed lovely and we invited them to ours for coffee and cake so they could get to know as we could get to know them. both our landlord and other people in the street thought this was brill idea and no one seamed to show any concern.
last week a neighbour came to the door and started yelling at me called me and my flat mates liars and pedos (which really upsets me given that I am a youth worker and when I hear of stories of youth workers abusing their position to abuse children/teens it makes me hurt/angry) she kept yelling and triggered a panic attack. luckily my house mate came home when she did and the landlords brother (who was visiting us to collect mail which we arranged with him to do so) stepped in to calm the situation.
the landlords has since seen them but i feel i get dirty looks as i walk down the street and it makes me mega uncomfortable. its making me scared to leave the house by myself and if i let it carry on it could affect my job which i have recently started to enjoy again
I just want some advice on how to deal with it. I don't want the police involved coz I fear it may cause more problems than its worth and I do want to be friendly to them and no show bitterness towards them.
any coping mechanisms suggested and how to deal with it if she becomes abusive again?
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Post by Kimberley on Oct 5, 2013 18:33:31 GMT
Hi Klairebear, sorry that you posted a few days ago, but I just wanted to post a reply. I hope you're okay and feeling a little better?
I can't imagine how it must feel being in that position. You're such an incredibly kind person as well to want to not have any bitterness between you considering what's happened.
Have you tried talking to your neighbour? I understand that might be hard, but I would think that would at least be a starting point to see why she felt she could make those accusations. It's quite an accusation to make, and to be honest, I'd be pretty angry about it. But it seems like you have a clear and collected mind, so use it to the best of your ability! :-) Having a chat would at least give you peace of mind I think to see why she feels this way.
I will say though, please take care of yourself. No one should be verbally (or physically) abused, especially as like you say, you're a youth worker and it's an extremely sensitive topic. If you feel things are getting out of hand again, please look after yourself first and call the police if you feel it necessary.
Take care, let us know what happens. x
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Post by klairebear on Oct 7, 2013 19:45:33 GMT
thanks its calmed down but feel like there is heaps of tension again with dirty looks by some neighbours. its just an odd situation and i think since being ill its made me both angry/vulnerable/upset. I hate holding grudges coz it normally makes my anxiety/depression worse.
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